Attempting to co-parent with your narcissistic, personality disordered, or other generally “high conflict” ex-spouse can feel like a never-ending nightmare. If you thought the divorce was bad, trying to raise your children with a high-conflict prone individual will be far worse, although not completely impossible. It is important to recognize if you are divorcing an individual who qualifies as a high-conflict personality, so you can prepare to take the necessary steps to handle what will be coming.
The usual time-sharing plans and shared parental responsibility guidelines will likely not apply to your case. Instead, you will likely need to design a (very) detailed parenting plan describing every aspect of child custody and visitation.
Below are definitions and recommendations to consider when creating your parenting plan. Keep in mind your narcissistic or high-conflict ex-spouse will probably disagree with many aspects but at least you will have a starting point for when the time to negotiate approaches.
These topics, along with any others you can think of, should be written so the intent is clear and understandable, even to an outsider. It may seem like a lot of work but detailing everything can help you to ensure your child is cared for and raised by similar patterns in each home. Detailed parenting plans are stabilizing, which is important when you are attempting to co-parent with a high-conflict ex-spouse. A detailed plan can also help justify any actions you took while following the parenting plan if your ex-spouse attempts to take you back to court.
Myrthil’s Law, P.A. can help you create a detailed parenting plan and file it with the court. We are well experienced with high-conflict divorces and modification requests. Contact us today to discuss your family law needs.